It’s a bit unfortunate that such a big decision is your first one out of the gate in the marathon of an adoption. Which adoption agency will you use?
Each adoption is unique and there is no “one size fits all” answer to this question. However, you can find the right agency for you, your family and adoptive child(ren) by doing the homework. Facebook, of all places, lends itself to a wealth of adoption communities. Joining these groups can help you find other family experiences with agencies and be helpful in the overall adoption process. Please remember that each family/child(ren) have different dynamics and that one person’s experience will not be indicative of your experience.
Whether domestic or international, there are a couple of basic questions that you should ask an agency right off the bat:
Agencies can help with domestic adoptions in both the avenues of working with birth mothers and through foster care. If you are looking to adopt a newborn and find a birth mother, the following list of questions will help you determine if they are a good fit, if through foster care- they would be the same except for a couple that do not apply:
List courtesy of adoption.com
If you are adopting internationally, the questions you would want to ask would be much different than if you are looking to adopt domestically. Here are some questions that that may be beneficial to you:
As with any major decision, it is very important to ask for references from each agency. It is also a good idea to email an agency directly and take note of their response time and the depth of the content/answers that are provided.
Please Note: If you are a family adopting after the international hosting experience, it is highly recommended to use the adoption agency that helped bring the children here for hosting. They already have an established relationship with the in-country facilitator that brought the child to America. They would best know the child’s in-country adoption status and family situation.